So I am not a mother yet. If God wills, then I will be one day, if not then that’s also by the will of God. If there is one thing that annoys me is the moment one gets married, next thing you know, everyone is asking you about when will you have children. In my mind, it’s husband and I who will have to raise the kids, not you. So I don’t get why people are so bothered by someone having kids or having no kids. Why do brown people always have this sort of competition about having kids? Then when they actually do have kids, then they compare about how pale one kid is and how the rest are all dark. Or they compare them with any other characteristics.
Now parenting isn’t easy, especially in today’s world. When I was born, there were no smartphones, heck even no easy access to internet either. So even though raising kids isn’t easy, at that time, for my parents it was (compared to today). You can’t tell me that it would be easy to control your kids today. I hear news where early teenagers (13-14) argue with their parents over phones and eventually call up the police. Let me tell you this, I didn’t have a phone until I reached college. And there was not one single day where I felt the need to call the police because my parents were strict towards me. We were taught to respect our elders and love those younger than us.
These days both parents are working and no one looks after the young children. I see plenty of people give birth and then let the kids raise themselves. I am not against independence, but I certainly believe that the first years of their childhood they should be closely supervised, so they don’t turn out corrupt. By corrupt I mean, they don’t end up getting involved with gangs, drugs and alcohol, stealing, or raping for instance.
Unfortunately, I see a lot of parents let their kids be. Whether the kids is doing something wrong or right, they never stop them until it gets too far. I am often surprised to see how kids (9-10 yr old) yell back at their parents if they didn’t get to see the TV show when they were supposed to actually be doing their homework.